Knowledge (things we don’t want to know) This psychological defense mechanism protects us temporarily from: Let me refresh your memory about some basic psychological defense mechanisms.ĭenial, which is an immature defense is defined as an attempt to reject unacceptable feelings, needs, thoughts, wishes-or even a painful external reality that alters the perception of ourselves. Children are a good standby (as in, " do it for the children!"). Of course, it behooves you to also throw into the mix that whatever you do, you do it for the sake of others. When you combine an overwhelmning need to make one's self look better (i.e., superior) with a grandiose sense of self-worth throw in glibness and a superficial charm that easily convinces others of your sincerity then there is little to stand in the way of easily manipulating others to your will. Most psychological tests have built in scales that detect this tendency to make one's self look better to others. Having said all this, it is important to remember that lying, no matter how pathological it may be is not in itself a disease. In general, the lack of an ability to feel guilty about the lies, and the perverse sense that he is "entitled to lie" are standard for the political narcissist. This is why truly pathological liars (such as sociopaths) are so hard to detect in the population. Thus he becomes sincere in his lying and others may actually believe the lies because of the sincerity.
And typically, he even begins to believe his own lies and become outraged at any suggestion that he may be lying. More lies are always necessary to cover up a previous lie.
He never allows himself to be "pinned down", or accountable. Thus, lying becomes the modus operandi through which he can maintain his superficial presentation of himself and keep people from learning the truth of who he really is. Since his primary goal is to control others, through projection he constantly fears that others will try to control him. For the immature narcissist there is an essential emotional truth: lying is an expression of his (or her) mistrust of others and his (or her) need to maintain a fragile sense of self at all costs.īeing honest (and therefore vulnerable) terrifies the narcissist. Pathological lying is one of the hallmark characteristics of a narcissist, who does it out of a need to manipulate and maintain control. Sam Vaknin, author, Malignant Self Love.
It is considered to be a weapon, an asset, a piece of lethal property, a traitorous mistress to be gang raped into submission. The language is appropriated and expropriated. With the classic narcissist, language is used cruelly and ruthlessly to ensnare one's enemies, to sow confusion and panic, to move others to emulate the narcissist ("projective identification"), to leave the listeners in doubt, in hesitation, in paralysis, to gain control, or to punish.
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